11 Moms Confess: What Being a Stay-at-Home Parent Is Really Like

11 Moms Confess: What Being a Stay-at-Home Parent Is Really Like

Real moms share the good, bad and heartwarming parts of being a stay-at-home parent.

By: Maressa Brown

For many moms, becoming a stay-at-home parent is what they always dreamed of doing … or simply what they believe is best for their families. But switching gears from the workforce to being at home with your child full-time can also be a bumpy transition, and the day-to-day isn’t always what you had imagined or planned. Here, 11 moms reveal what it was really like for them to transition to becoming a “SAHM”—and they’re holding nothing back!

1. “I have always worked and taken care of myself. It was a struggle for me to allow myself to be taken care of financially. On top of that, it took a while for me to accept the fact that even though I don’t make an income, the work that I do at home is just as important as what my husband does.”

2. “I love staying home with my kids, but you do lose a little bit of your identity. Sometimes, I feel like all my husband sees is a good mom, and that's all I am now. We are working on that—by trying to make time for our relationship and by giving positive feedback to each other outside of child caring. I also struggle with doing things for myself. Everything for the most part is all about the kids, house, and husband, so finding where I fit in is mostly nonexistent. So yes, staying home is not easy, but I do like that I have been able to teach my kids in the most important developmental stages.”

3. “I wouldn't trade being home with my baby all day for the world. My days are now filled with smiles, laughter, and the occasional tantrum. This last year has been an amazing journey. We go without a lot of extras in our lives, but I don't care because I get to spend every day with my amazing little girl.”

4. “My husband and I always agreed that I would stay at home after our first child (and now only) was born. It proved more difficult than I imagined. I did go back to work briefly after my maternity leave. I can recount the moment I told my husband that I wanted to give my director more than a two-week notice. He and his mother were on one side of the living room, and I was on the other. They both said to me that I only owed my company two weeks, and that my responsibility is with my family. It was a horrible, soul-crushing experience. That experience is one that I haven't gotten over and is probably one of the reasons why I chose to not have another child.”

5. “You’re always transitioning in your SAHM role—new baby, adding a baby, potty training, school starting! [But] it's just in our DNA to be moms!”

6. “I love it! I have been a SAHM to four girls for about nine years now. I had my first baby, and I was still working. When my second one came along, we realized that all my money was going to go to someone else to take care of them. So it made much more sense for me to stay at home. I wouldn't change it for anything. It’s not easy but so rewarding. When my littlest goes to school, I am still considering going back to work, probably part-time, but I still want to be here for my girls whenever they need me. ”


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7. “My story isn't rainbows and unicorns, but I have been a SAHM for a year now with two little ones. I am in the mortgage business and the lender I worked for closed, so I was thrown into staying at home. I lost that edge I had as a working mom. Now, my time management skills are out the window, because I'll cuddle up and watch [TV] with my babies. It's been hard on the marriage. So, going back to work is something I'm doing for me. I truly hope it gives me a break from the day-to-day stuff, and my husband can learn to wash his own socks!”

8. “I don't miss my career whatsoever and feel more like myself now than I ever have since having children. I don't have the workplace stresses or the ‘drama’ that go along with dealing with others in the workplace environment. Sure, being a mother is trying and stressful at times, but it's worth every moment. I also feel like I have more time to devote to my marriage, as well!”

9. “I have a hard time staying home all day. I enjoy being with my daughter all day and night, but one income means not enough gas to go do things during the week. I get very stir crazy. I am looking forward to the day that I can take her out to the park while my boyfriend is at work.”

10. “I looked forward to it. I was surprised at how unglamorous asking my husband for money would be though! I also imagined that I would be a perfect Susie homemaker. I do keep the house clean and in order, but not in the way I imagined. I wasn't prepared for the loneliness either. My work friends still had work, and I had to go out looking for new mommy friends, which can be exhausting. That said, it was the best decision I have ever made. Nothing worth doing is easy.”

11. “Was not planning on becoming one, and then they handed me this precious little guy. I loved, loved, loved my job, but after my six weeks off, I just cried when I tried to go back—even part-time. That was 21 years ago, and I wouldn't change my ‘job’ for the world!”

Which of these moms do you relate to most?

Maressa Brown is a senior staff writer for The Stir. She loves writing about and reading up on health/fitness, relationships, and pop culture –- preferably on a beach somewhere.

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Being a SAHM is the hardest job I ever had. Sometimes, it just gets to me, the same thing every day of wiping butts, making meals, entertaining CONSTANTLY, refereeing, wracking my brain for fun, but cheap things to do. That constant giving of yourself and not taking any time for you really gets to me. It is worth it and there are days I love it, but the tough days are tough, when you are counting down the seconds until your spouse gets home to give you some sort of break for your sanity.

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