‘Star Wars,’ Legos, and Young Love

‘Star Wars,’ Legos, and Young Love

What one mom has learned from watching her son fall in and out of young love.

By: Wendy Robinson

My son Miles is nursing some sadness from a recent broken engagement. Rosemary, a cute little blond in his kindergarten class, decided that she didn’t want to marry him because she loves Eli more. Miles, who has been engaged three times since kindergarten, sighed and noted, “You can’t make someone love you, no matter how much you know about Star Wars.” He is wise for a 6-year-old, wiser than me at times. I sometimes spend too much time trying to make a friendship work, even when it seems like we’ve grown apart.

I suspect he will recover from this minor heartbreak, especially given that he has told me that he is starting to love Eleanor from his day camp, “even though she is better at Legos than I am.”

In addition to his many romances, my son is a champion at making friends. He loves to meet new people, and his main criterion for friendship is, “Do you want to play?” He doesn’t care if someone is his age or what they have in common beyond a shared desire to have fun.

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Our family is preparing to move in a few weeks, and I am hoping to channel some of my son’s personality as I look to make new friends of my own. Though I am pretty social, sometimes I get shy when it comes to making new friends. I might get intimidated by someone who seems like she is more pulled together than I am (basically if you manage to get makeup on every day, you fall into this category), or I might feel like we have to agree on every hot-button parenting issue (what if she finds out I didn’t cloth diaper or don’t buy all organic fruit?).

But I think my son has the right idea. Friendship doesn’t need to be complicated. Maybe all I need to do is find someone who shares my love of trips to Target and warm afternoons spent letting the kids run free range at the park. If they happen to have a daughter who loves Legos and Star Wars, even better! I know just the 6-year-old who is always looking for love.

Do your kids have qualities you wish you could channel?

Wendy Robinson is a writer, working mom, and graduate student. Someday she'd like to sleep in again.

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This is so sweet. Your son has a tender heart.

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