What Military Women and Spouses Want You to Know About Their Family Lives

What Military Women and Spouses Want You to Know About Their Family Lives

Military moms, spouses, and servicewomen share what life is like for their families.

By: Maressa Brown

Life in a military family presents unique challenges, like missing a loved one who is deployed or changing cities frequently. And while servicemen and women are beyond proud to protect and defend our country, it may also be difficult to relay to other families what life is like in their shoes. Here, 10 military moms, spouses, and servicewomen share what everyday life is really like for them.

1. “No, my husband does not run our house like a boot camp! He is just a regular dad and husband who happens to serve and honor our country. And yes, I do actually like moving every three to four years. It is not hard on the kids but rather helps make them well-rounded individuals with a lot of cool experiences.”

2. “We face sacrifice as a military family. Going eight, nine months with a letter here or there or having no communication for weeks at a time. [We need] to be strong when we want to be weak.”

3. “We do not make a ton of money. We do not have free health care. We do live paycheck to paycheck. We don't get guarantees that our husbands, sons, wives, or daughters will be home for holidays or birthdays. Our lives are ‘subject to the requirements of the service.’ It’s not an easy life, but we make it work for those we love and support!”

4. “I [don’t like] hearing, ‘I don't know how you do it.’ The only thing I am doing is loving my husband and supporting his chosen career while raising our children together. Just because he goes on deployment does not mean that he is not an active, loving father. We make decisions together as a family.”

5. “My husband has been retired from the army for two years now. Our youngest joined three years ago. The hardest for me is not seeing him. Not knowing what's going on. I've seen him, on average, once a year since he joined.”

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6. “Our kids have to grow up pretty fast and understand when they say goodbye to their parent, it could very well be for the last time. I wouldn't change a thing. My kids understand sacrifice for the sake of freedom.”

7. “It isn't the easiest life in the world, but you buckle down and do it anyway. It can be hard trying to be mom and dad and cook and maid and first-aid and chauffeur, then to have to turn around and figure out how your spouse fits back into your life when they've been gone and you've been living life without them.”

8. “I am proud to say that I am a Navy mom. Being a military mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done … My three grandchildren go for months without seeing their daddy, but my son is a wonderful husband and father. I am proud to say that my family has served our country and sacrificed so much to do so.”

9. “My girls didn't ask to be born into the military life, but they love everything about it, like meeting new people and seeing the world . I will do anything for my family!”

10. “I don’t love my kids less because I deploy. I love them so much I’m willing to sacrifice my time to ensure they have a roof over their heads and food in their bellies.

What do you wish people knew about life in a military family?

Maressa Brown is a senior staff writer for The Stir. She loves writing about and reading up on health/fitness, relationships, and pop culture -- preferably on a beach somewhere.

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