10 Things Moms Wish They Knew Sooner

10 Things Moms Wish They Knew Sooner

Because kids don’t come with instruction manuals, some things take a while to figure out!

By Lorraine Allen

When it comes to parenting, we all learn as we go – babies don’t come with instruction manuals, and advice from well-meaning friends, family, and even strangers can only cover so much. But there are some realizations that we feel compelled to share, knowing that we wish someone had told us these things before we experienced them ourselves, so we wouldn’t have felt alone. Can you relate to any of these?

1. “I didn’t know toddlers need to brush their baby teeth–until a dentist pointed out my son had four cavities at age five that could have been avoided!” ­–Jacquie, mom to 3

2. “I wish I had realized sooner the extent to which I was powerless over my child's happiness. I tied myself in knots trying to soothe my baby for weeks before my mom very gently reminded me that it's not always about me or what I'm doing; sometimes babies are just going to cry. If she's sad, that's not a ‘problem’ I have to ‘solve.’” – Emily, mom to 1

3. “That kids having a tantrum are scared and feel out of control, and need our help to tame those crazy emotions, because they feel too overwhelmed. Took me two years to learn that…” –Sue, mom to 3

4. “When kids are scared, saying ‘there’s nothing to be scared of’ or ‘don’t be scared’ doesn’t work or help them. We need to recognize and accept their emotions—all of them.” – Leigh, mom to 2

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5. “That it would take me eight weeks after my kid was born to feel even a tiny bit human again.” – Gretchen, mom to 1

6. “That little things are not half as important as we feel they are, in the moment, and that parenting is so much easier if you just let some things slide.” –Caroline, mom to 4

7. “Lice! I wish I knew how to get rid of them effectively, before they took over our home.” Maya, mom to 2

8. “There are far worse things than a child who isn't developing typically having a ‘label’ at an early age – like not having the treatment or services they need because of your fears, ego, or ignorance.”­–Eliyanna, mom to 2

9. “Everything really is a phase.” –Clara, mom to 2

10. “That children are able to self-soothe quite a bit, and allowing that to happen will make us all much happier in the long run.” – Grace, mom to 2

What do you wish you knew sooner about kids and parenting?

Lorraine is a freelance parenting, health and food writer, and she shares her cooking adventures and family recipes at

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