12 Moms Reveal What They've Given Up Now That They're Moms

12 Moms Reveal What They've Given Up Now That They're Moms

A dream job? Bathroom privacy? Hear what moms have given up now that they are moms.

By Heather Chaet

I never like to say “never.” I’m a firm believer you shouldn’t give up on your dreams. However, there’s one thing I know for sure: I will never, ever, ever be a lingerie model now that I’m a mom. Not that I really wanted to be that in the first place, but still.

Now that I’m a mom, there are some professions and some ideas I’ve given up on. Case in point: I’ve been obsessed with space since I was little. But in college, my goals shifted from taking off in a space shuttle as an astronaut to taking off on the Broadway stage.

Obviously, neither of those dreams came true, and I am quite content with my current passion of writing. Yet, that doesn’t stop me from talking to my kiddo about space every night. It doesn’t stop me from looking to the sky and discovering what planets we can see (they often just look like really bright stars) and whether it’s a waning gibbous moon or a last quarter moon. I do all of these things, but I’m never going to be an astronaut.

Another thing I’ve given up on: being cool and believing that adjective is even important. I’m witty, anxious, sassy, bright, and empathetic, but I am not “cool.” After becoming a mom, I’ve realized, even more than before, that this is OK.

And yes, I’ve also given up being able to have a phone conversation without being interrupted. (I know you all are nodding at that one.)

I was curious to hear what other moms have to say on this subject, so I noodled around. Here, 12 moms from across the country share what they’ve given up on being or doing since becoming a mom.

1. “I’ve given up watching a non-animated movie of my choosing at 2 p.m. on a Saturday.” -- Liz

2. “I will never say to my spouse on a Wednesday, ‘Where do you want dinner on Friday night?’ And then, agree on London. And then, actually go. For realsies, we used to say London or Vegas, get spur-of-the-minute tickets, and go. Alas, never again.” -- Julie

3. “I’ll never have a dog again. Both my kids are allergic to them.” -- Mary

4. “I’ll never buy size 2 pants again.” -- Michelle

5. “I know, for certain, that I will never be a trapeze artist. It sounds funny, but I used to dream of it as a kid. But, traveling in a circus and being in charge of the neighborhood carpool don’t quite mesh.” -- Kimberly

6. “I’ll never buy clothes that need to be dry cleaned again.” -- Emily

7. “I will never again sleep until I want to get out of bed. Oh, and I have also given up doing anything I want to on weekends, because I spend all my time driving children to their events.” -- Kathy

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8. “I've shed my belief that this world is pretty OK. It's not, but I found out that in my daughter's eyes, I am a superhero, and I can change it. Also, I’ve given up on eating chocolate in front of anyone. I only eat it in the privacy of the laundry room because I don't want to share.” -- Tanya

9. “I have given up wearing heels. They look fabulous, but try chasing a 3-year-old in them. Just not worth it.“ -- Stephanie

10. “Oh, where to start? I’ll never have quality sleep again. I think once you become a parent, you always have one ear open, even when they are sleeping peacefully. That, and my days of wearing white are behind me.” -- Zoe

11. “I’ve given up not worrying. The worries are always there, no matter how old your children are.” -- Amy

12. “What have I given up on being now that I’m a mom? Sane!" -- Jeanne

What have you given up on being or doing now that you are a mom?

Heather Chaet documents her mini parenting successes, epic mommy fails, and everything in between for a plethora (love that word!) of publications and websites such as CafeMom, New York Family, and AdWeek. While her online persona is found at
heatherchaet.com, Heather lives in New York City with her film director husband and one insanely curious, cat-obsessed daughter.

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