12 Stay-at-Home Dads Confess How They Really Feel About Their Job

12 Stay-at-Home Dads Confess How They Really Feel About Their Job

Whatever you do, don’t call them the babysitter, the biggest kid, or Mr. Mom!


By Wendy Robinson

My husband sends me a text: “We’re off to the park! And then I think we might go to the gym or the library. Love you!”

I smile and allow myself to feel a quick moment of jealousy before I head in to my next meeting at work. I love my job, and I love that my husband stays home with our kids. But I’m not going to lie, sometimes a morning park trip sounds pretty great compared to a morning meeting.

That said, my husband has his own things to deal with. In our neighborhood, there are several stay-at-home dads and even a stay-at-home dads social group. Here, 12 SAHDs share how they really feel about their gig.

1. “Deciding to stay home was a no-brainer. I hated my job, and I love my kids! But I do get annoyed at being called ‘Mr. Mom’ by some of my family members. I’m not ‘Mr. Mom,’ I’m just a dad, you know?” -- Steve, father of two

2. “I feel like because we live in a bigger city, people don’t think the whole stay-at-home dad thing is that weird, which is nice. I like hanging out at the park and getting to talk to other parents and not having anyone think I’m creepy.” -- Matt, father of one

3. “Can I be real? Sometimes I am so bored. So. Bored. I think it will get better once he is older, and I have someone to talk to during the day. Right? Please say yes!” -- Austin, father of one

4. “Sometimes I think us dads who stay home get, like, too much credit. People are like ‘Oh, you took all three of them to the store by yourself! You are amazing!’ But that is really kind of condescending, right? Like, people don’t say that to moms, do they? I’m not doing brain surgery here, I’m just parenting.” -- R.J., father of three

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5. “My father literally never changed a diaper, and now, I have strong feelings on the whole cloth versus disposable thing. Times change. My dad thinks I’m weird though.” -- James, father of one

6. “I’m happy to be home with the kids right now, but I do worry about money sometimes. Am I going to have enough in retirement? Did I totally kill my career by stopping for a couple of years? My wife makes good money but I still worry.” -- Walt, father of two

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7. “I like the stay-at-home stuff related to the kids, but I get tired of being the main person in charge of laundry and running errands and always being on the clock. Weekends don’t mean anything anymore. Just another day with the bosses.” -- Dan, father of four

8. “This is kind of an overshare, but I feel like my wife and I have less intimacy since I started staying home. It makes me wonder if she thinks I’m less manly or something.” --Luke, father of one

9. “I’m kind of in a weird situation in that I’m a single dad who is a stay-at-home dad. I was a stay-at-home dad when we got divorced and afterwards, we decided to have me keeping doing it, but now my ex has to pay me some money as a ‘nanny.’ I feel like my kid is a good wingman. I’m not ready to date just yet, but I think I’ll be able to meet all the cute single moms at the park through my kid. Winning!” -- Tom, father of one

10. “In our house, being the stay-at-home parent also means that I am the designated parent to deal with middle-of-the-night wake-ups. I haven’t slept through the night since 2009. Give me all the coffee.” -- Greg, father of three

11. “Being a stay-at-home dad has made me get really annoyed at how dads are always portrayed on TV. I’m not a bumbling idiot! I’m NOT my wife’s other child. I can cook, I clean, I can change a poop-filled diaper without gagging in less than a minute -- give me some credit, TV commercials!” -- Will, father of two

12. “My wife sometimes gets jealous, and I think she thinks I have the easier gig between the two of us. I don’t know, maybe I do. But I’m glad to be here, having this time with my girls before they start school. I feel lucky, I guess.” -- Chris, father of two

What do you think the SAHDs you know would say about their job?


Wendy Robinson is a writer, working mom, and graduate student. Someday she'd like to sleep in again. She also blogs at www.athleticmonkey.com.

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