18 Secrets of Moms Who Always Seem to Have It Together

18 Secrets of Moms Who Always Seem to Have It Together

How does she manage to do it all? The answers may surprise you.

By Leah Maxwell

Everyone knows at least one Supermom -- the woman who juggles all the parts of her busy life with ease and never seems to break a sweat or a perfectly manicured nail. Maybe it’s the mom at school who volunteers every week even though she has a full-time job. Maybe it’s the mom on social media who always looks like she’s part of a professional photo shoot (hint: she probably is!). We each write our own definition of what it means to “have it all together,” and whether you admire or envy the moms who look like they’ve got it all figured out, you know you want in on their secrets. Here’s what some of them told us:

1. “As soon as you know something needs to be done, do it. Don’t leave anything for later ever because something always prevents its being done.” -- Mary X., London

2. “Keep it simple! Instead of playdates, stay after school to play on the playground. We did this and never had to do a playdate at home.” -- Kate S., California

3. “I only say yes to what I want to. Field trips? NOPE. Reading to the class and doing a craft? SIGN ME UP.” -- Jessica B., South Carolina

4. “I keep a text chain called ‘Letters to No One’ that goes to a nonexistent number so I have a place to vent and scream and curse and hit send and let it go. Many, many of my complaints should just be vented and then forgotten.” -- Amy W., Illinois

5. “My secret is to know my strengths and weaknesses and plan accordingly.” -- Rebecca M., California

6. “I do a lot of stuff exactly the same all the time so it’s habit -- making beds, morning routine, party foods, weeknight dinners. I just don’t have time/energy to innovate or make stuff extra pretty/creative.” -- Meredith S., New York

7. “I think people think I have it all together because I don’t stress out. So even when I’m not killing it, you can’t tell.” -- Gena G., Indiana

8. “The best advice for juggling I ever heard is to start by outsourcing things that don't affect your family relationships. (We hire a cleaner so we can spend that time as a family! We spend more money on food so we don’t spend tons of time comparison shopping/clipping coupons.)” -- Miriel R., Minnesota

9. “My kids are old enough to help, which is HUGE. My 13-year-old does his own laundry, which is awesome and helps so much.” -- Krista R., California

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10. “I stay on top of picking up/cleaning, so it only takes 15 minutes a day.” -- Lisa G., Arkansas


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11. “What’s the saying? It’s OK if you drop some balls, just try and catch the eggs? That’s me in a nutshell.” -- Marianne C., Tennessee

12. “I standardize/uniform whatever I can. I only use white sheets in my house. I have the same lunchboxes for all three kids.” -- A’Dell S., Texas

13. “I make a lot of lists. Lists for everything: food, meals, stores, to-dos, things I’ve already done, just so I can remember what I already did.” -- Sarah W., Illinois

14. “I believe I can do anything I want to figure out how to do, and then I actually figure out how to do it. If a system isn’t working (homework, laundry), I keep improving that system until it does work smoothly.” -- Jen G., Florida

15. “The No. 1 factor that makes our household work is that it's run by a team. My husband doesn’t ‘help’ me any more than I ‘help’ him -- it’s on both of us. And sure, we have specialties, but the co-managing thing (and, let's be real, the fact that both of us think grilled cheese for dinner is fine) is key.” -- Arwen M., Michigan

16. “I do at least one load of laundry a day, and it may be my hill to die on, but I fold my kids’ tiny underwear.” -- Ashley B., Nevada

17. “You have to decide what’s enough; you don’t need to care about everything.” -- Kate D., Ohio

18. “I think the thing is that we're all excelling at some things and failing at others. Nobody truly has it all together.” -- Emily C., Kansas

What tips can you add to our list?

Leah Maxwell is a book editor, freelance writer, cereal addict, wife, and mom to two young boys. She has been blogging at A Girl and a Boy since 2003.

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