8 Ways to Tap Into Your ‘Mom Village’ for Support

8 Ways to Tap Into Your ‘Mom Village’ for Support

Moms unite! It takes a village to raise kids, so reach out and make yours work.

By Lorraine Allen

I can personally attest that the saying “it takes a village” is definitely true. On days (and there are many) when I’m struggling to get out the door on time, get food on the table, or get my kid to soccer (in the right gear, at the right place, at the right time) I remind myself that sometimes, I just can’t do it all.

I might expect myself to be Supermom, but I don’t move at the speed of light, sadly. And neither do any other moms I know – and that’s why we work together to make our lives a whole lot easier and less hectic by joining forces. Here are some easy ways to tap into your mom village, and really benefit from the support, whenever and however you need it most:

1. Swap chores you hate with a mom friend. (For example, I hate shopping, which my friend loves, and she doesn’t like gardening, which is one of my favorite activities, and I don’t really have a garden. Perfect swap, even if only works out once in a while.)

2. Help each other reorganize parts of your home, which have turned into Bermuda-Triangle-style messes. (We all have these, don’t be shy about it!) Sometimes it just takes a fresh pair of eyes and a few extra hands to clear a space out quickly, sort through major messes, and create a better organized, more livable space.

3. Coordinate sports and other after-school activities with your kids’ friends and teammates, so you can take turns with their moms handling pickups and drop-offs. That means cutting your driving time in half!

4. Next time you cook something that’s easy to freeze, double the recipe, and bring a meal over to a friend (or two). They can repay the favor down the road, so you’ll have two fewer meals to cook some other evenings. (Do this with multiple friends, regularly, and you can find yourself suddenly cooking one night less a week, for example!)

More from P&G everyday: How to Support a Friend in Need Before She Asks for Help

5. Take turns watching friends’ kids on weekend evenings, with movie or pizza night, for example, so couples can have some time for a babysitter-free, kid-free dinner date. (Is there anything better than a free evening away from your kids and housework?) Plus, kids have nothing to complain about—they’ll be so excited about hanging out with their buddies!


Become a member of P&G everyday and get exclusive offers!

Become a member

6. Share an after-school sitter with a friend, to cut costs in half.

7. If you see a great sale or are heading to a special market for something, ask a friend if she needs anything, and she can repay the favor down the road, saving you a trip (and maybe even some money, too). Also, don’t forget to swap and share coupons with your friends, too! You could even make a regular date to do this at someone’s house or a local coffee shop.

8. Pick one date every month that works for everyone, and mark your calendars for a repeat, built-in play date/mom-date—something recurrent and set in stone so you don’t have to always take time to reach out, schedule, and play phone tag just to get together and hang out with people you enjoy and want to spend time with.

How do you and your mom friends help each other out?

Lorraine is a freelance parenting and food writer, and she shares her cooking adventures and family recipes at FeedingLina.com. She lives in New York with her family and one squirrel-obsessed dog. Follow her @feedingLina.

Image ©iStock.com/Christopher Futcher

You also may like:

7 Ways to Find & Create Your Own ‘Mom Village’

12 Women Share How They Keep Their Friendships Strong

Get a Shopper Card and Download Coupons for Instant Savings at Checkout

Complete your personal information

Please fill in the information marked with an asterisk to proceed; if you want to get tailored offers and content, don't forget to fill in the optional fields.