It's Really Not That Hard to RSVP to Kids' Birthday Parties

It's Really Not That Hard to RSVP to Kids' Birthday Parties

RSVP-ing for a kids’ party is as easy as clicking a mouse, so why aren’t people doing it?

By Kelly Bryant

There is a ridiculous phenomenon surrounding children’s birthday parties that I have yet to understand. And, no, it has nothing to do with the need for the ubiquitous bounce house. It’s even simpler than those inflatable wonderlands, and it’s an issue before the party even gets started. It’s the RSVP.

A large majority of parents do not RSVP to kids’ parties. I don’t get it. At first I thought this was just an epidemic among my son’s classmates, but then I talked to a girlfriend who was having a similar problem obtaining a head count among her child’s friends from a completely different neighborhood. At that point, I was chalking it up to a regional issue until I received a call from a close friend across the country who was frantically trying to figure out if anyone was coming to her son’s party. (It was two days before the event.)

How difficult is it to glance at your calendar and answer? Heck, I’ll even take a “maybe.” Listen, I know as families our schedules get overwhelmed with sports practices, dance recitals, swim lessons, and the like. It’s hard to fit everything in, but there’s a solution: Reply “no.”

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C’mon, people – let’s all band together to make RSVP-ing a trend. Yes, our inboxes get crowded with a ton of emails, and messages may fall through the cracks at times, but this isn’t always the case. You know it, I know it, and that website that makes party invites so easy to send knows it. This isn’t the olden days when you’d have to submit a written reply and schlep to the post office or even -- heaven forbid -- make a phone call. Generally, party invites are done digitally, so it’s as easy as clicking “yes,” “no,” or “maybe.” The choice is yours, and it’s literally at your fingertips.


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I’ll accept social media posts with misspelled words and poor grammar along with hyper-abbreviated text messages lacking punctuation as a fact of life, but at least give me, and folks everywhere, the decency of a reply after your child has been extended a party invitation. An empty play space is sad, and unexpected children who exceed the number of goodie bags you so carefully prepared is panic-inducing.

I’d really like to think that, amid the selfies and self-aggrandizing on social media, we haven’t become so narcissistic as a society that we’ve completely given up the common courtesy of the RSVP. Who’s with me?

How do you encourage guests to RSVP to your child’s party?

Kelly Bryant is a freelance writer and pop culture junkie. She resides in Los Angeles with her husband and their two sons. Follow her on Twitter @MsKellyBryant.

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