Make This the Year You Don’t Stress Over Thanksgiving

Make This the Year You Don’t Stress Over Thanksgiving

The holiday should be filled with joy and fun, not just more work for moms!

By Lorraine Allen

Thanksgiving has taken on a whole new meaning since I became a mom. Instead of looking forward to cooking with the other adults in my family, sharing a few dishes, and prepping, shopping, and cleaning up together, it now feels only natural to offer to host.

So each year, my husband and I try to go out of our way to make things extra special . Once, we smoked the turkey. Another year we grilled it. Both birds tasted great, but I start to feel increasingly anxious, overwhelmed, understaffed, and really pressed for time each year as the day approaches. Maybe you know that feeling? Now that my kid is in first grade, she asks a lot questions, and right now she wants to know the real reason we all get together and make such a fuss over one meal, and one silly bird. I’ve taken this opportunity to sloooooow down and rethink what this holiday is really about, and I'm so glad I have.

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Here’s the thing I’ve realized. No mom should feel like this holiday is such a chore. We don’t need to make every bathroom sink and window shine just because we have visitors coming. We don’t need to please every fussy palate by preparing dozens of special dishes, either. Heck, we don’t even need to cook the whole meal by ourselves. No one expects us to. That’s just not what this day is about. And no guest, with the spirit of giving thanks in mind, should care if there are books and toys on the floor, coats not hung up, and dirty dishes in the sink. We’re parents, right? We’re family. And any human who is part of any family knows that messes, imperfection, attitudes, and even failure, (read: burned stuffing,) are normal parts of life. Totally acceptable. In fact, they are even expected. (At least in my family.)

So let’s all loosen up, and remember what this holiday is really about. Let’s not go nuts with the home decor. Let’s cook some good food, set a nice table, and ask guests to bring a little something to share, too. Maybe light a couple of candles, play some nice music, and make sure we have enough chairs for everyone to sit together. This way, we moms can all enjoy the meal, the company, and the real spirit of the holiday, too.


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Do you enjoy the holiday or do you feel overwhelmed by hosting?

Lorraine Allen is a writer and mom to one spunky first grader and one squirrel-obsessed dog. You can follow their allergy-friendly cooking adventures at Feeding Lina.

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