Why 15 Parents Can't Wait for Their Kids to Grow Up and Move Out

Why 15 Parents Can't Wait for Their Kids to Grow Up and Move Out

Kids bring so much love, joy, and energy, but some things they take away.

By: Lorraine Allen

When couples become parents, their worlds turn upside down: A new child shifts their entire focus from living just for themselves to living with and for this tiny, adorable, amazing gift that has just burst into their lives. Instead of thinking about careers and ways to spend free time together, parents spend most of their time focused on their children. This is all very nice: It’s part of growing up, and part of enjoying life in a whole new way. But no matter how excited a couple is to become parents, how much they love their children, and how much fun they have as a family, there are always some things they miss doing that they used to enjoy before the kids were born.

Here, 15 parents share what they look forward to enjoying together once again, when their nest will be empty after decades of 24/7 parenting:

1. “I can’t wait to go to museums and art galleries a lot again. Now, we go a few times a year, but we used to be able to go all the time.”

2. “I look forward to traveling, once again! We take some family vacations, when we can, but we used to travel several times a year, and it was SO fun and relaxing and exciting. Now, trips feel like we’re home but in a different home. Still dishing out food. Still caring for kids. Still just doing kid-friendly activities all day.”

3. “For both of us to be able to sleep in. All I want to do is sleep in!”

4. “Having conversations that are not about kids. Now, it’s all we talk about at length. Before, we shared so many other thoughts during the day. I’m looking forward to having that back in our marriage. It feels like I don’t even know what my husband thinks about anymore, other than family and work.”

5. “Relaxing. Like, sitting on a couch with a cup of coffee together and reading the paper, like we used to. We have not done that in 11 years?!”

6. “Planning time together, and things we want to do together as a couple. Since we became parents, we only plan kid or family stuff.”

7. “Going to concerts.”

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8. “Eating out in restaurants and not spending so much time in the kitchen! (I really can’t emphasize enough how excited I am for this, even though I will miss my kids so so so much when they move out.)”

9. “Listening to music we like, again. I feel like our kids took over the sound system in our home from the second the first one was born. Ha!”


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10. “Just going places together, as a couple, regularly. Now, we’re always going somewhere as a family, or individually with kids, or just alone -- like to work. It’s almost never the two of us going somewhere together. My wife’s my best friend and I miss her, even though we live together.”

11. “Having our bathrooms back.”

12. “I can’t wait to be able to find our things where we left them, instead of everything disappearing or being covered with the kids’ things.”

13. “We’re looking forward to focusing on our hobbies again. We both had hobbies we were serious about but they got sidelined when we had kids. I feel like a piece of me has been missing from this.”

14. “Having a little more disposable income to buy things and eat things and go places, just because we feel like it.”

15. “Peace. And. Quiet. When the kids move on, we’ll miss them a ton, but we won’t miss the constant noise or arguing, that’s for sure!”

What do you miss most, as a couple, that you cannot wait to enjoy once your kids are grown up?

Lorraine Allen is a writer, and mom and personal chef to one spunky 6-year-old girl with severe food allergies. You can enjoy their delicious recipes and follow their amusing family cooking adventures at Feeding Lina.

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