10 Husbands Reveal What They Really Think About Their Mothers-in-Law

10 Husbands Reveal What They Really Think About Their Mothers-in-Law

This is one relationship that seems more complex than you might expect!

By Lorraine Allen

The mother-in-law. It’s kind of a dreaded term, all around. It has almost become a dreaded role, too, it seems, because traditionally, mothers-in-law have the reputation of a dragon. They are the ones who cannot be pleased enough, no matter what, because their precious offspring will always deserve better than whomever or whatever life they ended up with.

At least, that’s how the fictional stories usually go. But this is not necessarily true in real life. Not always, at least. Many wives and husbands have very complex, interesting, even positive and loving relationships with their mothers-in-law. Here, 10 husbands agreed to anonymously share their (very personal) points of view.

1. “My mother-in-law is really helpful. She takes care of our kids a lot and that gives us a little breathing room in our marriage, which we really need. We don’t always get along, but I appreciate her, and I think she respects me.”

2. “I don’t think of my mother-in-law as having a real connection with me, personally, but I definitely value her important role and relationship with my wife (they are really close) and with my kids. She’s a wonderful grandmother, and they are lucky to have her in their lives.”

3. “I think my mother-in-law might be a witch. Seriously. She’s very oddly good at predicting things, especially disasters. It’s creepy. When something goes wrong, her voice immediately pops into my head saying, ‘I told you so!’ I should probably listen to her more, but I kind of tune her out. She’s always telling everyone what to do, and it’s annoying and feels controlling even. So, we kind of grin and bear it, but ignore a lot of it.”

4. “Well, she is the one who introduced me to her daughter (my wife), so I can really only say good things about her. We actually worked together, so we had a professional relationship before I met her daughter. It was a little awkward, when we were first dating, to be honest, but that was almost 10 years ago. Now I laugh about it. And of course, I’ll always be so grateful to her for introducing us! She’s pretty great.”

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5. “Grrrrr. That’s all I can say. She is the nagging sort, the kind who calls every day. Sometimes twice. Shows up unannounced. You know the kind.”

6. “We always say we can’t live with her, but we can’t live without her! She’s not an easy person, she’s set in her ways, and it’s her way or the highway. But my mother-in-law is also really supportive. She has helped financially. She’s always there when we need a hand with the kids, and that’s awesome.”


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7. “My wife’s mom passed away a few ago, and I have to say, I miss her. We were pretty close. I lost my mom young, and she was very kind and motherly to me. I feel the loss, a lot.”

8. “To put it mildly, I cannot stand my mother-in-law. She is very passive-aggressive with all of us, but especially me. And she won’t take no for an answer. She always has to ‘win.’ I want to yell at her: ‘This is not a contest! It’s parenthood. Leave us alone.’”

9. “I used to get along great with my wife’s mom, but she remarried a few years ago, and now, we don’t see eye-to-eye as much. I don’t really like the new husband either, to be honest.”

10. “It’s a love-hate relationship for me. Isn’t it for everyone kind of?”

What does your husband really think about his mother-in-law?

Lorraine Allen is a writer, and mom and personal chef to one spunky 6-year-old girl with severe food allergies. You can enjoy their delicious recipes and follow their amusing family cooking adventures at Feeding Lina.

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