Knowing who you are – Princess

Being bullied as a young girl helped Princess come to terms with the fact that you can’t change what other people think or say about you, but you can embrace and love yourself.

“I remember being in fourth grade and I remember wanting to be white. ­I remember going to my fourth grade teacher and actually breaking down and crying about it. At that time I just wasn’t comfortable with my skin because all my peers were white. At least the ones I had seen day-to-day at school. I wanted to have the fine hair and I wanted to have smaller lips and you know, my features to be smaller.

Fast forward to seventh grade. I remember getting out of school, and getting on the bus and sitting down in my regular seat that I typically sit in. One of my classmates, he was a year older than me, I remember him getting on the bus. He was a person that was known for being a bully, and him and his friends, they decided that today was going to be my day.

I kinda tried to let it go in one ear and out the other. Then, he says this racial slur to me, and in that moment I was just trying to hold back tears, and of course the bus driver didn’t hear because I was in the back of the bus. But I remember wanting somebody to rescue me in that moment and not having anybody to defend me.

I remember being in class the next morning and still having the same feelings and just being upset and aggravated and frustrated about what had happened. Of course, the boy was suspended and my teacher was told about the situation and she approached me and asked me about it and asked me how I was feeling and you know, was I OK, and I was just ... I knew she wouldn’t understand about this racial slur.

At that point I just realized that I have to start being comfortable with me. If I could talk to a young girl that’s in that same position I would tell them: Don’t be down. Don’t let it get to you. Don’t let it make you think differently about yourself. To love yourself. And know that that’s that person’s own insecurities and that person’s own issues. Don’t let that reflect on you. You know who you are and don’t let anybody else change your thoughts about yourself.”

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