My Husband and I Splurge on an Extravagant No-Kids Getaway -- and You Should Too!

My Husband and I Splurge on an Extravagant No-Kids Getaway -- and You Should Too!

Could a one-night vacation, sans kids, be just the thing to give your marriage a lift?

By: Marisa Torrieri Bloom

I never truly appreciated my honeymoon in Belize until I went on my first vacation with kids. And while it’s great to get up early, have big family breakfasts, and build sandcastles, I longed for those days of exotic flowers and lounging around the pool reading. Tropical backdrops aside, I missed all the couple time we had before my husband and I became Mommy and Daddy.

This is why what started off as a babymoon in 2010 -- a two-day “getaway” to a nearby hotel with great views of the water -- has turned into an annual tradition.

Every year, my husband and I pack up our toddler’s bag, shuttle him off to his grandparents’ house, and set off for a night in New England that centers on all the things we can’t do when we’re home being parents. This year my infant joined our toddler for the first time, which was hard on me emotionally and physically (I had to pack my annoying breast pump). Of course, we’re fortunate to have grandparents close by who are willing to watch our kids for 24 hours, and even look forward to their visit.

This year, we booked the “Autumn Romance” package at a swanky hotel in Southport, Connecticut. As part of the package, we’d each get a massage -- and after six months of carrying my toddler and infant up and down the stairs, I definitely needed one! There is no time for spa treatments in my day-to-day mommy life, unless I were to skip sleep or exercise.

Since we live only 20 minutes north of the hotel, the trek wasn’t a big one, but in other years we’ve hit up Rockport, Massachusetts, and Newport, Rhode Island. This year, staying local offered more peace of mind for me since it was the first time I was apart from my younger son since his birth in February.

The hotel did not disappoint. We walked into a beautifully decorated room that featured a huge bouquet of long-stemmed red roses and chocolate-covered strawberries. After enjoying our massages, we relaxed in the hotel’s downstairs lounge with drinks. It was nice to have a casual conversation with my husband during the hours usually reserved for pre-dinner playtime with our sons -- to swap stories and memories of our kids’ funniest moments, share thoughts on the news, and talk about the vacations we wanted to take. The evening continued with a late dinner of delicious, five-star food in lieu of the frozen appetizers that usually pass for our day’s final meal. Since this was an extra special, once-in-a-blue-moon night, I rented a gorgeous, black lace designer dress – the kind I definitely don’t get to wear too often. Knowing that we could linger a little longer after dinner and enjoy cappuccino (mine) and black coffee (his) without rushing home to the babysitter made the meal that much more special.

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Of course, transitioning into non-parenting mode wasn’t easy. It felt weird having no background noises while we relaxed in our hotel room on a ginormous, king-size bed. And while I wanted nothing but sleep after months of waking up to feed an infant or change a toddler, I had a hard time actually falling asleep and unwinding. Once I did pass out, I enjoyed a good night’s rest -- but the body doesn’t easily forget the toddler-and-infant routine, so I automatically woke up at 7:30 a.m.


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Don’t get me wrong -- a three-hour date night is great! But taking a few hours out of the house for dinner is the parenting equivalent of taking a 15-minute break from the office to call a friend during work hours: It’s a necessary breather but not nearly enough free time to sustain a person’s good spirits.

We left the hotel feeling refreshed just in time for our trip to granny’s house to pick up our little ones. But by then, I couldn’t wait to get back to our wonderful life. When you’re a parent, just one night away from the kids can feel like a second honeymoon at a nice resort. That’s why it’s such a necessary tradition for me and my husband, and one that we plan to continue well into the future.

What do you do to enjoy some quality one-on-one time with your spouse?

Marisa Torrieri Bloom is a freelance writer and guitar teacher who lives with her husband and two young sons in Fairfield, Connecticut.

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