How to Support a Friend in Need Before She Asks for Help

How to Support a Friend in Need Before She Asks for Help

Little things can mean a lot when it comes to supporting a friend in need.

By: Betsy Voreacos

Parenting is tough business, and even the toughest of moms can struggle sometimes. Sadly, so many of us are trying so hard to be Super Mom that we don’t ask for help when we need it. Luckily, other mom friends can usually see through that façade and pick up on the signals a distressed mom might send out: a post on social media that just doesn’t sound right, a passing comment in conversation, or an unusual overreaction where the kids are concerned. Here are some small ways you can let a friend in need know you care and are there for her.

Feed her!
Order dinner for her family from their favorite pizza place, or drop off a freezer meal – just because. When you’re not feeling yourself, either mentally or physically, the mere thought of preparing another family dinner can be daunting. No good meal goes unappreciated.

Take the kids!
Invite her kids over for the afternoon – or better yet, for a sleepover. Let her know that, in return, she is to spend the free time focusing on herself.

Get her out!
Have her over for lunch without the kids. Or hire a sitter for both of your broods and go out for coffee mid-afternoon. Let her talk, let her listen, or let her vent – just let her know you’ve got her back.

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Pamper her!
Give her a gift certificate for a pedicure or massage. Watch her kids while she’s there or schedule a time when you can go together.

Write her a letter!
Send her a letter or an email reminding her of what a great friend, mom, and person she is. Boosting her spirits by extolling her virtues can go a long way if she’s not feeling so great about herself for any reason.


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Go on an overnight!
If you can possibly swing it, whisk her away somewhere for the night for a change of scenery. Find a cheap, last-minute hotel deal and treat yourselves to room service!

The most important thing about being a friend is to simply be a friend. Don’t ever be afraid to show kindness and feel like you have to wait for an invitation to support a friend. If you trust your gut, you’ll rarely be sorry.

What do you do to help a friend when she’s having a tough time?

Betsy lives with her family a stone’s throw from New York City. An overly involved mother of three children, Betsy has always been acutely aware of her shortcomings as a parent, not to mention those of her children. She documents her life in the brutally honest Old Minivans Die Hard.

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